When Your Pet Dies
Grief is an intense emotion. It is not a single event - it is a process. It is often a long and arduous journey. But eventually peace and acceptance will come - it just takes time.
Grief is borne of the loss of relationships. The deeper we have loved, the deeper the grief.
The first few weeks after a loss can feel like a storm that will never pass. A dark cloud may hang over your head and feelings of doubt, fear, anger, insecurity, helplessness, frustration and guilt are likely to follow. These are uncomfortable and even painful feelings, but they are to be expected.
A deep depression may set in. This type of grief may need professional attention. It may be necessary to contact a doctor or other healthcare professional for assistance.
Grief is unique to each person. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Everyone wants to say the right thing, the comforting thing, not too much or too little. Responding to another’s grief, however, can be awkward. Friends and family may feel helpless about what to say or do. There is no hard and fast set of “shoulds” when it comes to being there for someone who is grieving.
Grief happens all the time, with losses great and small. What is most normal about it may be that it seems to be woven into the fabric of the human condition. Grieving is a long process; some would say it takes a lifetime. We keep reflecting and learning about our own lives as we remember those we have loved and lost.
Joy and happiness will return, especially as we stay connected to our cherished memories of those profoundly important relationships that will always influence our lives.
It is natural to want to spend some time alone to grieve. Your grief may seem too personal to share with others and spending time alone is okay. However, feelings of isolation may begin to plague you. Stay connected even when you prefer to be alone. You may also feel a tremendous sense of tiredness and exhaustion. This is normal so don’t hesitate to take care of yourself by getting additional rest.
Allow Others to Help
It may seem that loved ones and friends simply do not understand your grief and sadness. But most certainly do. However, often they simply do not know what to say. They will do their utmost to be compassionate and understanding. Allow others to serve you in any way they wish. It will be a learning and healing experience for all of you.